It’s been a few months since I’ve last written. I’m almost a mother to a one year old! To me that just feels crazy. It seems like only yesterday I was on all fours strapped to a gurney and being driven to the hospital. It’s nice to be able to look back and feel like hey, I think I did a pretty good job! I’m so grateful that I have a beautiful, healthy boy who is keeping me very busy! I’m so proud of myself for not listening to people when they told me if I co-slept my child would NEVER LEAVE OUR BED. Well, what do you know, baby boy sleeps almost 12 hours a night in his own crib. How did we ever get him in there? It did seems like I would never get any sleep for months. I think Andrew slept through the night when he was ready. There were some some bad days where we did have to let him cry a little bit, for his own protection, but we didn’t let our little guy cry for hours and hours. If he woke up during the night we always went to him and gave him comfort. That’s what we’re here for anyways, isn’t it?
I have to be honest and say that I am SO tired of people saying you should let a young baby cry it out (CIO) at a young age. What I also hear is “they have to learn to sleep”, “they have to learn to be independent”. Independence comes with time. A baby is SUPPOSED to have needs and they are SUPPOSED to need you. It’s ok!! I know we get frustrated because we feel that we never get time for ourselves. You are absolutely allowed to feel that way. You just have to communicate with your spouse and try to schedule in alone time. Sometimes that has to be during nap time. Enjoy the peace when you can! I now have a child who screams!!! I doubt I will get many complements in the next few weeks about how good and quiet my child is, because that is now how it has been! It’s a phase and I know it will pass.
So moms and dads, new ones and old. Be nice to new moms. It’s tough and it’s a major transition. Just be supportive but also know when to back off. Moms, follow your instincts! Hold your baby, love your baby. If you c0-sleep for a few years, hey, that’s what YOUR child needed. If you breastfeed until your baby is 3, that’s what YOUR baby needed. Find friends who are supportive if your family isn’t . Do me a favor and please educate yourself about vaccines! It’s not a trend my friend! Trust your instincts!
I hope all is well in your world!!
You’re right. Great job, mom.